An open letter

My fellow military spouse,

You are not the only one who misses their spouse, even if they’re gone for a shorter period of time. It’s ok to miss your spouse, even when it’s just a overnight training. You are not the only one who feels broken down and defeated during a deployment. Your not the only one who has asked for extra help from family, new friends or even professionals to get through what seems like a never-ending dark tunnel.

You are not the only one who gets frustrated with their spouse one second and wish they never had to leave again the next. You are not the only one who can’t wait for them to deploy or leave for training only because you are tired of all the stress and fighting. We all understand how hard the transition back into a normal schedule can be when your spouse is home after a long deployment or training rotation.

You are not the only one who has mixed emotions about homecomings. You are not the only one who remembers how things were before they left and wonder if they will get any better now that the deployment is over. We all question our marriage during trying times but deep down we know each time apart will make us stronger.

You are not the only one who is worried about money. You are not the only one who debates on if you should get a better job, or if you should even be staying home with your children. Do what’s best for you and your family. No one is going to judge you for being a stay at home mom or taking the 9-5 office job.

You see, sometimes we can misunderstand others, especially in our social media world. We can assume that everyone else is not going through what we are. We can assume that everyone else has figured it out. But in reality, most don’t. We’re all guilty of only posting our highlight reel.  No one likes to talk too much about their struggles. We don’t share the whole journey, just the result. So when you feel like the whole world is on your shoulders and your drowning in military life, please remember you are not alone.

Sincerely,

Another struggling military spouse

 

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